The human heart is just and soft unity, hard and soft coexist so that people
have to keep valuable edges and corners, save a distinct personality, adhere to
the inner criteria, and be able to appreciate the warmth of the world to
maintain the temperature of human nature, . Only the hardness and softness,
balanced and unified personality to achieve a harmonious self-personality.
Too hard-line people tend to over-care about the realization of self-will, too
abide by the self-criteria. Character is not mixed with soft hard eventually
like a wall generally isolated from the normal exchanges and exchanges with
others, will be cold and estrangement planted in the bottom of my heart. Hai Rui
"carry coffin curse Jiajing" Ling Ran and tough, but not the slightest
tenderness left to his own daughter, abide by the three syllabus and the five
permanent members of the ethics, that will take the male Dingjia piece of cake
the daughter of starvation. Can be seen, too hard means that I do not know the
stubborn and do not understand the flexibility of numbness, and ultimately will
be as double-edged sword wounding hurt himself.
But the inner too soft is not good, because too soft will make people lose the
right and wrong view. When the good and the bad, good and bad things are equal
treatment without discrimination, the spread of love and compassion to cheap to
meaningless, blindly compromise and concessions will only promote the breeding
of great evil.
From this view, too hard and soft will lead to the generation of personality
shortcomings. True harmony of the self, should be the same as Jiaxuan, "Jin Ge
iron horse, swallow thousands of miles as a tiger," the Jagged pride, also "see
beauty head, curl Chunbao" deep tenderness should be like Lung Ying-tai, And his
son Andre exchange of letters of the motherly feelings, but also angrily
questioned the "Chinese people, why do not you angry," the noble spirit. We must
adhere to their own standards of life and attitude, but also should have the
ability to make sensitive perception of the romantic.
Liang Xiaosheng said: "to hate and abominable to dare to love to defend the
lovely. With the abomination of the contest to suppress the abomination of the
phenomenon, to love and lovely to defend lovely in our lives to flourish." . The
necessary toughness, can hold the true love of soft; appropriate soft, can
highlight the real tough. Soft and hard, though clearly different, but not poles
apart, in fact, they stand side by side.
We would like to be able to pursue the hardness of softness of the sound
personality, self-harvest of harmony and unity.
